grief the most severe. For of this he judges by his own experience. He that is childless con-
siders nothing so sad as to be without children; he that is poor, and has many children,
complains of the extreme evils of a large family. He who has but one, looks upon this as the
greatest misery, because that one, being set too much store by, and never corrected, becomes
willful, and brings grief upon his father. He who has a beautiful wife, thinks nothing so bad
as having a beautiful wife, because it is the occasion of jealousy and intrigue. He who has
an ugly one, thinks nothing worse than having a plain wife, because it is constantly disagree-
able. The private man thinks nothing more mean, more useless, than his mode of life. The
soldier declares that nothing is more toilsome, more perilous, than warfare; that it would
he better to live on bread and water than endure such hardships. He that is in power thinks
there can be no greater burden than to attend to the necessities of others. He that is subject
to that power, thinks nothing more servile than living at the beck of others. The married
man considers nothing worse than a wife, and the cares of marriage. The unmarried declares
there is nothing so wretched as being unmarried, and wanting the repose of a home. The
merchant thinks the husbandman happy in his security. The husbandman thinks the mer-
chant so in his wealth. In short, all mankind are somehow hard to please, and discontented
and impatient. When condemning the whole race, he saith, “Man is a thing of nought” (Ps.
cxliv. 4.), implying that the whole kind is a wretched unhappy creature. How many long for
old age! How many think youth a happy time! Thus each different period has its unhappiness.
When we find ourselves censured on account of our youth, we say, why are we not old? and
when our heads are hoary, we ask whither has our youth flown? Numberless, in short, are
the occasions of sorrow. There is one path only by which this unevenness can be escaped.
It is the path of virtue. Yet that too has its sorrows, only they are sorrows not unprofitable,
but productive of gain and advantage. For if any one has sinned, he washes away his sin by
the compunction that comes of his sorrow. Or, if he has grieved in sympathizing with a
fallen brother, this is not without its recompense. For sympathy with those that are in misery
gives us great confidence towards God.
Hear therefore what philosophy is taught by the example of Job in holy Scripture! Hear
also what Paul saith: “Weep with them that weep”; and again, “Condescend to men of low
estate.” (Rom. xii. 15, 16.) For, by the communication of sorrow, the extreme burden of it
is lightened. For as in the case of a heavy load, he that bears part of the weight relieves him
who was bearing it alone, so it is in all other things.
But now, when any one of our relatives dies, there are many who sit by and console us.
Nay, we often raise up even an ass that has fallen; but when the souls of our brethren are
falling, we overlook them and pass by, as if they were of less value than an ass. And if we
see any one entering into a tavern indecently; nay, if we see him drunk, or guilty of any
other unseemly action, we do not restrain him, we rather join him in it. Whence Paul has
said: “They not only do these things, but have pleasure in them that do them.” (Rom. i. 32.)
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