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intimates, in saying,
"
as unto the Lord." So
then do everything, as in obedience to the Lord,
and as doing everything for His sake. This
were enough to induce and to persuade us, and
not to suffer that there should be any teasing
and dissension. Let none be believed when
slandering the husband to his wife ; no, nor let
the husband believe anything at random against
the wife, nor let the wife be without reason in
quisitive about his goings out and his comings
in. No, nor on any account let the husband
ever render himself worthy of any suspicion
whatever. For what, tell me, what if thou shalt
devote thyself all the day to thy friends, and
give the evening to thy wife, and not even thus
be able to content her, and place her out of
reach of suspicion ? Though thy wife complain,
yet be not annoyed it is her love, not her
folly they are the complaints of fervent attach
ment, and burning affection, and fear. Yes,
she is afraid lest any one have stolen her
marriage bed, lest any one have injured her in
that which is the summit of her blessings, lest
any one have taken away from her him who is
her head, lest any one have broken through her
marriage chamber.
There is also another ground of petty jealousy.
Let neither claim too much service of the ser
vants, neither the husband from the maid-ser
vant, nor the wife from the man-servant. For
these things also are enough to beget suspicion.
For consider, I say, that righteous household I
spoke of. Sarah herself bade the patriarch take
Hagar. She herself directed it, no one com
pelled her, nor did the husband
J
attempt it ;
no, although he had dragged on so long a period
childless, yet he chose never to become a
father, rather than to grieve his wife. And yet
even after all this, what said Sarah ?
"
The
Lord judge between me and thee." (Gen. xvi.
5.) Now, I say, had he been any one else,
would he not have been moved to anger?
Would he not also have stretched forth his
hand, saying as it were, "What meanest thou?
I had no desire to have anything to do with the
woman ; it was all thine own doing ; and dost
thou turn again and accuse me ?
"
But no, he
says nothing of the sort ; but what ?
"
Be
hold, thy maid is in thy hand ; do to her that
which is good in thine eyes." (Gen. xvi. 6.)
He delivered up the partner of his bed, that he
might not grieve Sarah. And yet surely is there
nothing greater than this for producing affec
tion. For if partaking of the same table pro
duces unanimity even in robbers towards their
foes, (and the Psalmist 2 saith, "Who didst eat
1
[The punctuation of Field: ovSe fn^Oev oai<ty>,_&c., is clearly
not so good as that of the Oxford translator: ovSe frrijASei- o a.vr\p,
&C.-G. A.]
2
[The Septuagint reads, os cn-l TO aurb eyAvKams efifff/uaTo, and
sweet food at the same table with me
") ; muchmore will the becoming one flesh for such
is the being the partner of the bed be
effectual to draw us together. Yet did none
of these things avail to overcome him ; but
he delivered Hagar up to his wife, to show
that nothing had been done by his own fault.
Nay, and what is more, he sent her forth when
with child. Who would not have pitied one
that had conceived a child by himself? Yet
was the just man unmoved, for he set before
everything else the love he owed his wife.
Let us then imitate him ourselves. Let no
one reproach his neighbor with his poverty ; let
no one be in love with money; and then all
difficulties will be at an end.
Neither let a wife say to her husband,
"
Un
manly coward that thou art, full of sluggishness
and dullness, and fast asleep ! here is such a
one, a low man, and of low parentage, who runs
his risks, and makes his voyages, and has made
a good fortune ; and his wife wears her jewels,
and goes out with her pair of milk-white mules ; 8
she rides about everywhere, she has troops of
slaves, and a swarm of eunuchs, but thou hast
cowered down and livest to no purpose." Let
not a wife say these things, nor anything like
them. For she is the body, not to dictate to the
head, but to submit herself and obey.
"
But
how," some one will say, "is she to endure pov
erty? Where is she to look for consolation?"
Let her select and put beside her those who are
poorer still. Let her again consider how many
noble and high-born maidens have not only re
ceived nothing of their husbands, but have even
given dowries to them, and have spent their all
upon them. Let her reflect on the perils which
arise from such riches, and she will cling to this
quiet life. In short, if she is affectionately dis
posed towards her husband, she will utter noth
ing of the sort. No, she will rather choose
to have him near her, though gaining nothing,
than gaining ten thousand talents ofgold, accom
panied with that care and anxiety which always
arise to wives from those distant voyages.
Neither, however, let the husband, when he
hears these things, on the score of his having the
supreme authority, betake himself to revilings
and to blows ; but let him exhort, let him ad
monish her, as being less perfect, let him per
suade her with arguments. Let him never once
lift his hand, far be this from a noble spirit,
no, nor give expression to insults, or taunts, or
revilings ; but let him regulate and direct her as
being wanting in wisdom. Yet how shall this be
this Chrysostom, not knowing Hebrew, follows. The Rev. Vcr. has
We took sweet counsel together." G. A.]
So Demosthenes says of Midias, <cai eis fivvnipia iV yvvaliea
.yd, KO.V aAAooV iroi /SouArjTai, <jjri rov AevicoO evyov<; rov ec SIKVU-
05. Dem. in Mid. p. 565.