If he who marries her who is divorced commits adultery, he who, with a wife of his own,
defiles himself also with that other—it is manifest to every one. But perhaps to you who are
men, enough has been said on this subject. For concerning them that are such, Christ says,
“Their worm will not die and the fire will not be quenched.” (Mark ix. 44.) But for the sake
of the young it is necessary to speak to you, not to the young themselves so much, but to
you. For these things are suitable not to them only, but also to you. And how? I will now
tell you. He who has not learnt to commit fornication, will neither know how to commit
adultery. But he who walloweth among harlots, will quickly also arrive at the other, and will
defile himself, if not with the married, yet with those who are disengaged.
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What then do I advise, so as to extirpate the roots? So many of you as have young sons,
and are bringing them up to a worldly life,993 quickly draw them under the yoke of marriage.
For since whilst he is yet young desires trouble him, for the time before marriage, by admon-
itions, threats, fears, promises, and numberless other methods restrain them. But at the
season of marriage, let no one defer it. Behold, I speak the words of a match-maker, that
you should let your sons marry. But I am not ashamed to speak thus, since not even Paul
was ashamed to say, “Defraud ye not one the other” (1 Cor. vii. 5.), which seems more
shameful than what I have said; yet he was not ashamed. For he did not pay heed to words,
but to the acts that were set right by words. When thy son is grown up, before he enters
upon warfare, or any other course of life, consider of his marriage. And if he sees that thou
wilt soon take a bride for him, and that the time intervening will be short, he will be able to
endure the flame patiently. But if he perceives that thou art remiss and slow, and waitest
until he shall acquire a large income, and then thou wilt contract a marriage for him, des-
pairing at the length of the time, he will readily fall into fornication. But alas! the root of
evils here also is the love of money. For since no one cares how far his son shall be sober
and modest, but all are mad for gold, for this reason no one makes this a matter of concern.
Wherefore I exhort you first to regulate well their souls. If he find his bride chaste, and know
that body alone, then will both his desire be vehement, and his fear of God the greater, and
the marriage truly honorable, receiving bodies pure and undefiled; and the offspring will
be full-charged with blessing, and the bride and bridegroom will comply with one another,
for both being inexperienced in the manners of others, they will submit to one another. But
one that begins when younger to wax wanton, and to have experience of the ways of harlots,
for the first and second evening will praise his own wife; but after that he will soon fall back
into that wantonness, seeking that dissolute and disorderly laughter, the words that are full
of base import, the dissolute deportment,994 and all the other indecency, which it is not
993 [i.e. not designing them to religious celibacy.—J.A.B.]
994 σχήματα διακεκλασμένα. See on 1 Tim. i. 17, Hom. iv., where he advises the wife to please her husband
by modesty and simplicity.
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