In the first place he affirms that the profession of
widowhood comes very close to that of virginity, and is to be esteemed
far above the married state. He proves this by the testimony of
St. Paul and by his description of one who is a widow indeed; also by
many examples taken both from the old and New Testament. Having
mentioned St. Peter’s wife’s mother, he turns more
particularly to the widow for whose sake he is writing, though he
avoids mentioning her name, pointing out how really empty and
insufficient are all the reasons she is setting before herself for
marrying again. The marriage bond is, indeed, he says, holy and
good, and the married and single are as various kinds of flowers in the
field of the church. There is, however, more corn produced than
lilies, more that is married than virgin. He points out that
widowhood has been held in dishonour by idolaters alone, for which
reason it may well be held in honour by Christians. St. Ambrose
does not condemn a second marriage, though placing widowhood before it,
as being bound to aim at leading those committed to his loving care to
the highest possible degree of perfection.