Chapter XII.
It is very desirable that parents should encourage the
desire for the virgin life, but more praiseworthy when the love of God
draws a maiden even against their will. The violence of parents
and the loss of property are not to be feared, and an instance of this
is related by St. Ambrose.
62.
It
is a good
thing, then, that the zeal
of parents, like favouring gales, should aid a
virgin; but it is more glorious if the fire of tender age even without
the incitement of those older of its own self burst forth into the
flame of chastity. Parents will refuse a dowry, but you have a
wealthy Spouse, satisfied with Whose treasures you will not miss the
revenues of a father’s inheritance. How much is poverty to
chastity superior to bridal gifts!
63. And yet of whom have you heard as ever,
because of her desire for chastity, having been deprived of her lawful
inheritance? Parents speak against her, but are willing to be
overcome. They resist at first because they are afraid to
believe; they often are angry that one may learn to overcome; they
threaten to disinherit to try whether one is able not to fear temporal
loss; they caress with exquisite allurements to see if one cannot be
softened by the inducement of various pleasures. You are being
exercised, O virgin, whilst you are being urged. And the anxious
entreaties of your parents are your first battles. Conquer your
affection first, O maiden. If you conquer your home, you conquer
the world.
64. But suppose that the loss of your
patrimony awaits you; are not the future realms of heaven a
compensation for perishable and frail possessions? For if we
believe the heavenly message, “there is no one who has forsaken
house, or parents, or brethren, or wife, or children, for the kingdom
of God’s sake, who shall not receive sevenfold more in this
present time, and in the world to come shall have everlasting
life.”
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Entrust
your faith to God, who entrust your money to man; lend to Christ.
The faithful keeper of the deposit of your hope pays the talent of your
faith with manifold interest. The Truth does not deceive, Justice
does not circumvent, Virtue does not deceive. But if you believe
not God’s word, at least believe instances.
65. Within my memory a girl once noble in the
world, now more noble in the sight of God, being urged to a marriage by
her parents and kinsfolk, took refuge at the holy altar. Whither
could a virgin better flee, than thither where the Virgin Sacrifice is
offered? Nor was even that the limit of her boldness. She,
the oblation of modesty, the victim of chastity, was standing at the
altar of God, now placing upon her head the right hand of the priest,
asking his prayers, and now impatient at the righteous delay, placing
the top of her head under the altar. “Can any better
veil,” she said, “cover me better than the altar which
consecrates the veils themselves? Such a bridal veil is most
suitable on which Christ, the Head of all, is daily consecrated.
What are you doing, my kinsfolk? Why do you still trouble my mind
with seeking marriage? I have long since provided for that.
Do you offer me a bridegroom? I have found a better. Make
the most you can of my wealth, boast of his nobility, extol his power,
I have Him with Whom no one can compare himself, rich in the world,
powerful in empire, noble in heaven. If you have such an one, I
do not reject the choice; if you do not find such, you do me not a
kindness, my relatives, but an injury.”
66. When the others were silent, one burst forth
somewhat roughly: “If,” he said, “your father
were alive, would he suffer you to remain unmarried?” Then
she replied with more religion and more restrained piety:
“And perchance he is gone that no one may be able to hinder
me.” Which answer concerning her father, but warning as to
himself, he made good by his own speedy death. So the others,
each of them, fearing the same for himself, began to assist and not to
hinder her as before, and her virginity involved not the loss of the
property due to her, but also received the reward of her
integrity. You see, maidens, the reward of devotion, and do you,
parents, be warned by the example of transgression.
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Luke xviii. 29, 30
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