delayed not, nor asked the reason. Nay, one of them, the chief, was so admirable, that he
was even entrusted with the marriage of the only-begotten child, and with a journey into a
foreign country. (Gen. xxiv. 1–67.) For just as with a general, when his soldiery also is well
organized, the enemy has no quarter to attack; so, I say, is it also here: when husband and
wife and children and servants are all interested in the same things, great is the harmony of
the house. Since where this is not the case, the whole is oftentimes overthrown and broken
up by one bad servant; and that single one will often mar and utterly destroy the whole.
Moral. Let us then be very thoughtful both for our wives, and children, and servants;
knowing that we shall thus be establishing for ourselves an easy government, and shall have
our accounts with them gentle and lenient, and say, “Behold I, and the children which God
hath given me.” (Isa. viii. 18.) If the husband command respect, and the head be honorable,
then will the rest of the body sustain no violence. Now what is the wife’s fitting behavior,
and what the husband’s, he states accurately, charging her to reverence him as the head,
and him to love her as a wife; but how, it may be said, can these things be? That they ought
indeed so to be, he has proved. But how they can be so, I will tell you. They will be so, if we
will despise money, if we will look but to one thing only, excellence of soul, if we will keep
the fear of God before our eyes. For what he says in his discourse to servants, “whatsoever
any man doeth, whether it be good or evil, the same shall he receive of the Lord” (Eph. vi.
8.); this is also the case here. Love her therefore not for her sake so much as for Christ’s sake.
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This, at least, he as much as intimates, in saying, “as unto the Lord.” So then do everything,
as in obedience to the Lord, and as doing everything for His sake. This were enough to induce
and to persuade us, and not to suffer that there should be any teasing and dissension. Let
none be believed when slandering the husband to his wife; no, nor let the husband believe
anything at random against the wife, nor let the wife be without reason inquisitive about
his goings out and his comings in. No, nor on any account let the husband ever render
himself worthy of any suspicion whatever. For what, tell me, what if thou shalt devote thyself
all the day to thy friends, and give the evening to thy wife, and not even thus be able to
content her, and place her out of reach of suspicion? Though thy wife complain, yet be not
annoyed—it is her love, not her folly—they are the complaints of fervent attachment, and
burning affection, and fear. Yes, she is afraid lest any one have stolen her marriage bed, lest
any one have injured her in that which is the summit of her blessings, lest any one have
taken away from her him who is her head, lest any one have broken through her marriage
chamber.
There is also another ground of petty jealousy. Let neither claim too much service of
the servants, neither the husband from the maid-servant, nor the wife from the man-servant.
For these things also are enough to beget suspicion. For consider, I say, that righteous
household I spoke of. Sarah herself bade the patriarch take Hagar. She herself directed it,
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