custom, that virgins attend to do honor to their fellow; matrons attend to do honor to her
who is made one of their order. Rightly hath this been ordered. For these are two companies,
one of virgins, the other of the married; the one are giving her up, the other receiving her.
The bride is between them, neither virgin, nor wife, for she is coming forth from those, and
entering into the fellowship of these. But those harlots, what mean they? They ought to hide
their faces when marriage is celebrated; they ought to be dug into the earth, (for harlotry is
the corruption of marriage,) but we introduce them at our marriages. And, when ye are
engaged in any work, ye count it ill-omened to speak even a syllable of what is adverse to
it; for instance, when thou sowest, when thou drawest off the wine from thy vats, thou
wouldest not, even if asked, utter a syllable about vinegar; but here, where the object is
chasteness, introduce ye the vinegar? for such is an harlot. When ye are preparing sweet
ointment, ye suffer nought ill-scented to be near. Marriage is a sweet ointment. Why then
introducest thou the foul stench of the dunghill into the preparation of thy ointment? What
sayest thou? Shall the virgin dance, and yet feel no shame before her fellow? For she ought
to have more gravity than the other; she hath at least come forth from the [nurse’s] arm,
and not from the palæstra. For the virgin ought not to appear publicly at all at a marriage.
Seest thou not how in kings’ houses, the honored are within, about the king, the un-
honored without? Do thou too be within about the bride. But remain in the house in
chasteness, expose not thy virginity. Either company is standing by, the one to show of what
sort she is whom they are giving up, the other in order that they may guard her. Why dis-
gracest thou the virgin estate? For if thou art such as this, the same will the bridegroom
suspect her to be. If thou wishest to have men in love with thee, this is the part of saleswomen,
green-grocers, and handicrafts-people. Is not this a shame? To act unseemly is a shame even
though it be a king’s daughter.916 For doth her poverty stand in the way? or her course of
life? Even if a virgin be a slave, let her abide in modesty. “For in Christ Jesus there can be
neither bond nor free.” (Gal. iii. 28.)
What? is marriage a theater? It is a mystery and a type of a mighty thing; and even if
thou reverence not it, reverence that whose type it is. “This mystery,” saith he, “is great, but
I speak in regard of Christ and of the Church.” (Eph. v. 32.) It is a type of the Church, and
of Christ, and dost thou introduce harlots at it? If then, saith one, neither virgins dance, nor
the married, who is to dance? No one, for what need is there of dancing? In the Grecian
mysteries there are dancings, but in ours, silence and decency, modesty, and bashfulness.
A great mystery is being celebrated: forth with the harlots! forth with the profane! How is
it a mystery? They come together, and the two make one. Wherefore is it that at his entrance
indeed, there was no dancing, no cymbals, but great silence, great stillness; but when they
come together, making not a lifeless image, nor yet the image of anything upon earth, but
916 i.e. at whose wedding it is done.
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