wise man tells us. “Though thou drewest a sword at thy friend, yet despair not: for there
may be a returning again to favor. If thou hast opened thy mouth against thy friend, fear
not; for there may be a reconciliation: except for upbraiding, or disclosing of secrets, or a
treacherous wound: for for these things a friend will depart.” (Ecclus. xxii. 21, 22.) For
“disclosing,” saith he, “of secrets.” Now if we be all friends, there is no need of secrets; for
as no man has any secret with himself and cannot conceal anything from himself, so neither
will he from his friends. Where then no secrets exist, separation arising from this is im-
possible. For no other reason have we secrets, than because we have not confidence in all
men. So then it is the waxing cold of love, which has produced secrets. For what secret hast
thou? Dost thou desire to wrong thy neighbor? Or, art thou hindering him from sharing
some benefit, and on this account concealest it? But, no, perhaps it is none of these things.
What then, is it that thou art ashamed? If so, then this is a token of want of confidence. Now
then if there be love, there will be no “revealing of secrets,” neither any “upbraiding.” For
who, tell me, would ever upbraid his own soul? And suppose even such a thing were done,
it would be for some good; for we upbraid children, we know, when we desire to make them
feel. And so Christ too on that occasion began to upbraid the cities, saying, “Woe unto thee,
Chorazin! woe unto thee, Bethsaida!” (Luke x. 13.) in order that He might deliver them
from upbraidings. For nothing has such power to lay hold of the mind, or can more strongly
arouse it, or brace it up when relaxed. Let us then never use upbraiding to one another
merely for the sake of upbraiding. For what? Wilt thou upbraid thy friend on the score of
money? Surely not, if at least thou possessest what thou hast in common. Wilt thou then
for his faults? No nor this, but thou wilt rather in that case correct him. Or, as it goes on,
“for a treacherous wound;” who in the world will kill himself, or who wound himself? No
one.
Let us then “follow after love;” he saith not simply let us love; but let us “follow after
love.” (1 Cor. xiv. 1.) There is need of much eagerness: she is soon out of sight, she is most
rapid in her flight; so many things are there in life which injure her. If we follow her, she
will not outstrip us and get away, but we shall speedily recover her. The love of God is that
which united earth to Heaven. It was the love of God that seated man upon the kingly throne.
It was the love of God that manifested God upon earth. It was the love of God that made
the Lord a servant. It was the love of God that caused the Beloved to be delivered up for His
enemies, the Son for them that hated Him, the Lord for His servants, God for men, the free
for slaves. Nor did it stop here, but called us to yet greater things. Yes, not only did it release
us from our former evils, but promised, moreover, to bestow upon us other much greater
blessings. For these things then let us give thanks to God, and follow after every virtue; and
before all things, let us with all strictness practice love, that we may be counted worthy to
attain the promised blessings; through the grace and loving-kindness of our Lord Jesus
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